Most teams and players have those devastating moments in their history that they play over and over in their heads, wishing that they could change the outcome. Toronto’s last minute game 7 loss to Boston in the first round in 2013 was pretty painful, and for the Canucks, it was also Boston that crushed their hopes in game 7 of the 2011 Stanley Cup Final.
I can only imagine what it’s like for the players, because it was tough as a fan. If you don’t take control of it and try to move forward, it could negatively affect you for a long time. The next year in 2012, the Canucks lost in the first round to the Kings (who went on to win the Cup), and Ryan Kesler tweeted this quote by Marcus Aurelius: You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.
No matter how many times you replay the past or think about what you could have done differently, you can’t change the outcome. You can’t control what happens outside of you, or the actions of other people – but you do have power over your mind. All you can do is learn from the past and let it motivate your future.
It’s okay to be disappointed, angry, or upset, but don’t hold onto those feelings and let a mistake or a regret negatively affect your life. There is strength in knowing that while there’s a lot that you can’t change, you can change your perspective.
Game Plan: Is there something in your life that you regret, something that has hurt you, or a situation you keep ruminating over that is out of your control? Realize that while you can’t change what’s happening around you or what has happened in your past, you can change how you will respond to it. If you’re interested, try this ‘Let It Be’ meditation from Meditation Oasis. (You can also find it for free on iTunes.)