Do you ever struggle with the fear of missing out? (I have FOMOH, fear of missing out on hockey, but that’s another problem.) Putting yourself out there and saying yes to opportunities is not always a bad thing, but it can be if you find that you have too much on your plate, it’s something you don’t want to do, or it doesn’t align with who you are. No isn’t a bad word – it’s about choosing your yes’s carefully and being selective about how you really want to spend your time and focus. No is also a complete sentence, which means that you don’t always have to come up with an excuse or explanation for your decision. If you feel like spending a night in, you don’t have to give an excuse for why you can’t attend a social event. If you’re at a party and don’t want to drink, you don’t have to explain why. If you’re asked to organize a fundraiser again this year, give someone your services, or work on a project that you know you can’t give your all to… it’s okay to say no. No isn’t about all of the missed opportunities you may be turning down, but deciding where you want to give your yes.
Game Plan: Be conscious of what you say yes to. If you say yes to everything, it’s hard to give your best and you’ll end up spreading yourself too thin. Remember that saying no can be just as brave as saying yes, because you’re choosing where to focus your time. It shows that you are a confident person who knows who you are and how much you can handle.