I have a hard time making decisions. Sometimes it’s so debilitating that I can’t even pick out a movie because I’m afraid of choosing the wrong one. Something to remember is that not making a decision is a decision in itself, and making the wrong decision is better than not making a decision at all.
Indecisiveness can come from a lack of self-confidence. Sometimes we’re worried about what others think, but if you really feel that your choice is the right one for you, that shouldn’t matter. Sometimes we’re worried about what’s at risk in making that choice, but there’s usually less to lose than we think. Sometimes we’re worried about making the right decision, but “if you don’t make the right decision, you can make the decision right.”
Doubts can cause confusion and analysis paralysis to the point where you don’t make a decision at all or question the decision you’ve made. If you are constantly worrying about your choice, then you won’t be able to enjoy life even if you made the ‘right choice’. Sometimes you just have to trust your gut, which isn’t just a split decision – that intuition comes from your knowledge, experience, values, and priorities. Rather than looking at the problems, consider the opportunities and focus on the potential. Trust in your decision-making capabilities and your ability to deal with whatever decision you’ve made.
Game Plan: When you have to make a decision, first try to narrow down your choices. It’s often much easier to make a decision when you don’t have so many options in front of you that it becomes overwhelming. If I’ve gone through the pros and cons and I still can’t decide, sometimes the most important thing you can use is your gut. Flip a coin and let it make the decision for you. (But not really.) If you’re happy with the outcome, stick with it! If you’re not, you know what your choice is.
Quote source: Bernhard Langer, two-time Masters champion (Mind Gym, Gary Mack)