If you’re willing to take the blame when you deserve it, people will give you the responsibility. – Gretchen Rubin, Happier at Home
If you’ve watched the press conferences on locker cleanout day after a team has been eliminated from the playoffs, you’ll probably notice that it’s rare to see a player blaming anyone but themselves. The team wins together and loses together. It’s never just one person who is responsible for a loss or a win, but the only thing you can change is yourself. It doesn’t mean that you should beat yourself up for your mistakes, but it also won’t help to start blaming other people. Before you start blaming it on bad luck, a bad call, or a bad play, think about your own responsibility.
Over-relying on the feeling of being right is an unreliable guide for what takes place in the world around us. It causes us to stop considering the idea that we could be wrong about certain things. The only way to change our habitual thinking patterns is to acknowledge or come to terms with the fact that we may have been wrong. – Justin Goldman
St. Augustine said, “I err, therefore I am.” Everyone makes mistakes, and every mistake is just saying, “I thought this was going to happen, but this other thing happened instead.” Admitting that you’ve made a mistake shows that you are willing to take responsibility for your actions and want to grow and get better. It shows strength, not weakness.
Although ‘The Power Within’ was a book written for goalies, it contains lessons we can all use:
We must come to understand that our capacity to make incorrect reads and other various mistakes is not an embarrassing defect or a sign that we’re a bad goaltender. Instead, realize that it’s fundamental to who we are, because we really don’t always know what’s right, and we don’t always play the perfect game.
We can’t be afraid to make mistakes. Instead, we must realize that it’s only human to be scared of the feeling of being wrong. Once we come to terms with that, humility will set in and our sense of pride will fall by the wayside. This will make us better students, better learners, and better goalies.
Game Plan: Putting the blame on someone else won’t change the past, and it won’t help either of you improve. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, and don’t be afraid to admit it.
Quote source: John Wooden
The Power Within by Mike Valley and Justin Goldman