One of the things that Gretchen Rubin reminds herself of while doing her happiness projects is that the only person she can change is herself. There are things that she thinks her whole family might enjoy or that she would like to do with her husband, but she realizes that getting upset when they don’t participate isn’t going to increase anyone’s happiness. You can’t force anyone else to do anything, and trying to change someone else when they’re not interested won’t help anybody. Trying to force someone to see something your way or change their attitude or behaviour is only going to be frustrating and draining for you, and it might just push them further away. The best thing you can do for them is show them love.
Loving God includes loving people. You’ve got to love both. (1 John 4:21, Msg)
It can be frustrating when we don’t understand someone else’s behaviour or their perspective, but laying blame and judging others isn’t going to fix the problem. The great thing is that you do have control over yourself. You can choose to let them make their own decisions and be at peace with that because it is their choice. You can choose not to let other people’s actions bother you or anger you. You can choose love.
Game Plan: There’s nothing wrong with trying to help other people, but at the end of the day, the only person you can change is yourself.